Concentrate on what you want
and the world
around you starts to change.
Every person you meet, ought to have a sparkle in their eyes. A person who follows what he wants from the bottom of his heart, is excited, is happy and bubbles all over with energy. He "sparkles"!
When the sparkle isn't there it's a warning: The light is red! Something is wrong! Don't accept the excuses that person gives you. If he or she has a problem, help them to get it sorted out and go for the sparkle! Once real goals and wishes are identified, the sparkle will return.
I can already hear you reaction, "Yes that is very selfish and childish. How can I do what I want? I have a job. I have a lot of responsibilities. I don't have money. I have small children, etc., etc."
Illnesses, accidents and mishaps can result from forcing yourself to do things which deep in your heart you know you don't want to do. You are acting against your own self-interest. You are going against your own power. You permit your own power to diminish. Are you doing what you really want to do from the bottom of your heart? Are you following what society tells you to do, or what well-intentioned advisers tell you to do?
Don't spend energy on what you don't want. If it doesn't feel good for you, don't do it. Don't force yourself, you will end up in a labyrinth without knowing how you got there.
Is it bad to do what you want? Is it selfish? No, not at all. Your self-interests automatically serve the common good. I am not talking here about a person who wants to shoot his friend. That is a very sick want. I am talking about healthy thinking that contributes toward the survival of everybody.
"But shouldn't I do this because I ought to.....?" Oops, there you go off into the labyrinth. Have you noticed how you feel if you force yourself to do things. Life starts to slow down. You become annoyed and the day or afternoon isn't much fun anymore. Then you come home tired and aren't interested in doing much of anything anymore. What happened to your energy? You gave it away to something you didn't want. You let it to be sucked out of you.
When you do something you want, you don't get in trouble so easily, and you feel responsible for it because it comes from you and it regenerates your energy. Have you ever been around bubbly sparkling people? They recharge themselves because they have fun with what they are doing. If a problem arises, they handle it and you won't hear them complaining a lot. They are too busy doing what they want to do.
We all have created the patterns we are in, and it is not always easy to give them up. But you can start with first allowing yourself things that appear small concessions in your eyes. Say 'no' to your best friend when she insists that you accompany her to the movies. Say 'no' when you don't want to stay up late. Say 'yes' to the chocolate pie you want. Take it and enjoy it. You will be amazed that your body won't ask for it the next day, because it is satisfied and happy. When you restrain yourself, you get tension and blocks and there is no flow anymore.
Follow what you want; when you do that, you feel responsible because it is yours!
Life is so much fun; it is up to you how you play it. I wish you success
Copyright ANKE van de WAAL