Sparkle:
Illnesses, accidents and mishaps
can be caused by forcing yourself to do thing which down deep in your heart
you know you don't really want to do. You are acting against your own self-interest.
You are going against your own power. You permit your own power to diminish.
Every person should have a sparkle
in his eye, when you meet that person. a person who follows what he wants
from the bottom of his heart, is excited, is happy and bubbles all over
with energy. He 'sparkles'.
When the sparkle is absent, it
should be a warning; the light is red!
Something is wrong. Don't accept the excuses that person gives you. If
he or she has a problem, help him to get it sorted out and go for the sparkle!
Once real 'wants' are identified the sparkle will return.
However, occasionally a person
may change his viewpoint and way of looking at things. That can release
him from a fixation. By completely changing his perspective, that person
may find his present activities redefined in terms of real 'wants.' In that
case he can often even continue with his present activities, but with a
new attitude. Always watch for the sparkle. If the sparkle has returned,
it worked.
People sometimes will say to
me: "Yes, I know, you say that so nicely, 'find the sparkle...,' but
I buried it when I was a child, or when I lost my first husband. Don't
tell me I should follow what I want; that is impossible. That is the way
life is!"
Find out exactly where and when
you lost your sparkle. You can do this. You will find clues and a good
understanding about your life. Then you can pick up the sparkle again where
you lost it. Another possibility is to decide to start now. From
now on, resolve to start going only for things which bring a sparkle to
your eyes and which excite you!
I should, if I Could,
if I would. Often we don't know what we want,
because the knowledge is blocked by all kind of 'shoulds,' 'ought-to's,'
'have to's,' etc. Basically, we know what we want. But then feelings of
guilt start to kick in: "I should do this, otherwise....," "
I don't want to , but I ought to..."
There are occasions when we don't
follow what we want, because we are afraid, and in order to hide that,
we come up with beautiful reasons like:
-- I can't do that because my
wife wouldn't like this.
-- What will my friends say!
-- I don't have the energy for it.
-- I have to, I should, I ought to (you fill it in....)
-- I don't have the time for it.
Now you have created a barrier
to what you want, an obstacle to what you basically desire deep in your
heart.
We are inclined to deny basic
desires. Instead we start to put all our energy in rationalizing.... why
we can't. We try to justify ourselves. If we persist in this, we convince
ourselves and start to believe what we say, and we begin to think that
those reasons make sense.
When you hear a person stating
all sorts of reasons why he or she wants or doesn't want to do something
and that persons keeps on trying to convince you, you had better realize
there is something wrong. Shakespeare at this point would say: "Me
thinks thou dost protest too much!"
What that person states isn't
true, it is a half truth; underneath lies the real truth.
Trust:
Often I hear people say, "but
what would I do if....?" How do we know? We haven't taken the first
steps yet. How then can we know the second step in all its entirety. It
develops by going through the steps. When you need to decide by Wednesday,
and it is Sunday night and you don't know the answer yet, don't panic.
You still need to experience Monday and Tuesday. Trust that it will all
fall into place. Just stay alert. Alertness is very important. When you
aren't alert, you can miss certain 'messages.'
If you should still not know
the answer by Wednesday, it is probably is meant to be so. Perhaps the
man you need to answer by Wednesday calls in sick. You'll see, the worry
wasn't needed.
Keep this line in mind:
When
it is not necessary to make a decision, it is necessary to not make a
decision!
